Self esteem is a feeling of your capabilities and limitations. It is how much a person values himself or herself. It develops from infancy and goes until adulthood. It changes from day to day.
Self esteem could be healthy(high) or unhealthy(low). An individual with a healthy self esteem knows his weaknesses and strength. He is optimistic, feels good about himself, enjoys life and interacts with others freely. On the other hand, an individual with an unhealthy self esteem is always anxious, frustrated and thinks poorly about himself.
Some factors that shapes an individual’s self esteem ranges from their thoughts and perspectives, experiences at home, school, workplace, how other people react to them, illnesses, disabilities, culture and religion, to name a few.
Our level of self esteem has a profound impact on every aspect of our life, from how much professional success we enjoy, to whom we are likely to fall in love with.
Healthy self esteem correlates with rationality, realism, intuitiveness, independence, ability to cope with change and a willingness to accept mistakes, correct and learn from them. Unhealthy self esteem correlates with irrationality, fear of new and unfamiliar development, blindness to reality and defensiveness.
An individual with a low self esteem can improve it by reflecting on what he likes about himself, accepting who he is, identifying what changes can be made to make him feel good about himself, focusing on his achievements as well as making future plans.
A high self esteem helps an individual achieve laid down goals easily, allows you take charge of your life, helps you visualize your strength and weaknesses. This can be maintained by appreciating every aspect of your life – good, bad and the ugly, prove your negative thoughts wrong, knowing who you really are and what you want, Keep positive and beneficial relationships.
In as much as having a healthy self esteem is vital in our every day life, certain precautions need to be taken, In cases of “extra” healthy self esteem, as it is sometimes associated with pride because the individual tends to think too highly of himself. As the saying goes “Too much of everything is bad”.
It is therefore advisable to be grateful for your life and be ready to receive the best that the universe has to offer you and at the same time, believe in yourself because the less confidence you have in yourself, the faster you will give up trying to get what you want.